Yesterday I officially turned 29. One step closer to 30. Most women dread getting older, but I don’t have a fear of that. I do like to take time and reflect on what I learned over the past year though. What did 28 teach me?
1. To have a voice.
As I get older, I find that I’m much more confident in speaking up and voicing how I feel, even if it’s uncomfortable for others. Being a mom, teacher, wife, and leader in my church have all played a part in developing my voice.
2. To unplug and plug into what really matters.
For me this was literal. I think I saw how attached I was to my electronics and how I was missing out on actually being present.
3. Serving others makes me happy and fulfilled.
I found that I enjoy serving, hosting, and giving even when I feel like I don’t have much to offer. I think I have learned to serve with my heart and to serve without wanting or expecting anything in return.
4. The world doesn’t revolve around me.
Humility is a lesson I’ve continued to be taught. I think it’s because it’s not something I’ve quite mastered yet. It’s humbling to recognize that there are things so much bigger than ourselves. It puts things into perspective.
5. Making assumptions will make you look like a fool. Especially because my assumptions are typically wrong.
When I make assumptions about people or situations, I’m almost always proven wrong. Its better to deal with reality than assumptions.
6. I am an awesome mom.
I am proud of the mother I’ve become. I know that I love my boys well and my parental instincts have never failed me so far.
7. My possessions don’t define me.
I’ve come to a point where I’ve realized that stuff is just, well…stuff. I’m more than the car I drive, the clothes I wear, and the latest toys my kids have or don’t have. The end.
8. How to learn to love my small home and see it as a blessing and not a curse.
I think it’s easy to compare with what others have and allow yourself to feel jealous or resentful about it. I have a small home that I use to bemoan. “One day when we get a bigger house…” but I’ve learned to enjoy the here and now and look at the fact that I am a homeowner. I have a mortgage that is cheaper than any rent I’ve ever paid. I have a house where people feel at home in and welcomed in. That’s winning in my book.
9. Not to cave in on something I strongly believe in, no matter how much opposition I face.
I think this year I’ve been in positions that have at times, backed me up against the wall. The easiest thing would have been to cave in because fighting for my convictions was the hard thing to do. But I did it and am proud of that. It’s made me stronger.
10. Dreaming is everything.
I’ve been pushed to dream bigger than I have ever dreamed before. I have been challenged to place no limits or restrictions on the dreams of my heart. By who? God. Myself. My husband. It is everything.
When I look back at 28, I am not filled with regret. I’m filled with contentment. Goodbye 28, hello 29.