Life with two boys who are two and a half year old has been chaotic. There have been an abundance of ups , a few downs, and altogether I think I have changed so much as a parent. Cool if I write a brutally honest post?
The first year the boys were born, I was overwhelmed (obviously with twins) but struggled a lot with my new identity of “mom.” The boys are now two and a half years old, and we’ve come a long way! This year I have learned to be content in this season of motherhood. I realize that I don’t have to give up all parts of who I am and can STILL be me and do the things that I like to do and not be a “bad mom.” A mom that takes this time for herself is a healthy mom, in my opinion. I have also learned that there are things that I CAN’T do in this season and that’s also okay. It took me a LONG time to be okay with that.
There will be a time where life won’t require a substantial amount of planning.
There will be a time of no more diapers.
There will be a time (hopefully) of no more tantrums.
There will be a time of order and a house that doesn’t look like a tornado (TWINNADO) hit it.
AND I WILL MISS IT ALL.
At two and a half the boys are SO much fun. They talk a lot more, say things like, “Hi Mommy, I missed you!” It’s pretty charming. They play with each other, have clear likes and dislikes, can verbalize those likes and dislikes, and love to be with each other. They will be starting full-time preschool for free in the fall at the best pre school in our city and I’m really excited for that because I hope that they will continue to flourish.
The most difficult part of two year old hood:
- Tantrums – when these happen I would love to hide myself in a cave underground and not emerge for a long time. The valve would be stocked with chocolate, Netflix, and a few of my favorite books.
- Picky eating – Dear Twins, I’m sorry your mommy refuses to be a short order cook. You will eat what I give you and when that doesn’t work I will cave and end up giving you something to appease you and you will like it!
- Entertaining during the cold – it’s harder to take the boys out on adventures when the weather is miserable. I am looking forward to spring and summer!
- Learning – since they aren’t in preschool, I want to make sure that they are where they should be. I think that speech can improve but I see growth happening so yay for that!
The boys don’t really hang out with anyone else but each other. When we are around other kids, they will play with them, but we aren’t around other kids often – so preschool will be the test. But that’s still a long ways to go!
As a teacher I’ve been on winter “break” this week. If you are a mom, you know that it’s not a break really! It’s just a different kind of chaos located in your home instead of the school. We also have my husband’s family staying with us, which in itself has been quite interesting (because my home is the size of the dollhouse and there are a total of eight human beings under one roof, four of hose eight being under 12). I miss the blog world. I’m taking a break from social media and some other things in my life so I can pursue things that I love and not cave to time wasters. This includes not watching as much television or Netflix. Wish me luck! I also can’t wait to catch up with everyone’s blog! Xo